When you are in the doghouse, there’s no use pretending. A busted love relationship brings down everything else. You may not be sure what went wrong (especially if you are a guy!), but there’s no denying that the tension needs fixing. Papering over conflict with smiles and nice talk doesn’t work. Caving in, going along to get along is worse. Both attempts are temporary at best and lead to sullen, resentment. But when someone initiates real repair by doing whatever is necessary to truly reconcile the broken relationship, the results can be exhilarating.
It was God Who took the initiative to repair our broken relationship with Him. Paul described it like this:
For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in Him (Jesus – See: Seeing the Invisible), and through him to reconcile to Himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through his blood, shed on the cross. – (Colossians 1:19-20 – with my comment)
Carefully note that it was God Who took the initiative. And, He did not give in and say, “Let’s just pretend everything is OK now.” He did everything necessary to truly repair the break. The sobering, necessary cost was the blood payment for our sin.
Notice also that His act reconciled “all things” to Himself, not the other way around. When you reconcile your bank statement, in almost every case it is your figures that must be adjusted to match the bank’s record; you change to reconcile to the bank. God did not lower Himself to adjust to our sinfulness, but reached down through Jesus to lift us up to Himself.
The end result is peace. Peace is not pretending to get along, it is the absolute, settled, restoration of the way things between us were always meant to be. Peace wipes out all tension. God, through Jesus, made this peace. He took the initiative and He accomplished it.
You know, because you have been there, when your partner makes the first move to reconcile your relationship, it requires a certain humility to receive that act of love. But if you are willing, you exchange brittle tension for peace and joy.
“All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ … God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting men’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation…We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.” (2 Corinthians 5:18-20 – excerpts)
Quotes: The Holy Bible : New International Version. 1996, c1984 (electronic ed.). Grand Rapids: Zondervan.