Are you afraid to love, believing it will constrain you? Certainly some neurotic relationships constrain us, but these are not real love. Real love releases false constraints, setting us free to be all we really are. That is the kind of love relationship God wants for us with Himself (See: previous two posts).
It seems counterintuitive: How can submitting to a relationship with someone else, making a commitment, result in more freedom? Picture those flying suits people wear to jump from high cliffs and soar. It is strapping oneself into the tight bonds of the suit that allows the freedom to fly. Additionally, unless they fully commit and jump, they will not fly but fall. Love works like that, especially love mutually extended between you and God.
You can see the relationship between love, commitment and freedom in the following two quotes from Jesus.
“Jesus replied, “If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.” – (John 14:23)
The word, “obey,” makes us cautious and reluctant, but it is that commitment that leads to freedom. The Father and Son come and “make their home” with us. This happens with the life of the Holy Spirit in our souls. The word for “make their home”, also translated as “abide” is used in this saying of Jesus:
To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, “If you hold to (literally, abide or make your home in…) my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – (John 8:31-32 with my added note)
It is the love commitment of making one’s home in the teachings of Jesus, the ways of God, that causes us to soar in freedom. Jesus said, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” (John 10:10b)
If you are standing at the edge of that cliff, worried that loving God will inhibit you or constrain you, do not hesitate; Go for it! Fully commit and watch how this relationship of love spreads your wings.