Is it okay with God if you get divorced? That question has literally been asked for thousands of years. But it is the wrong question. To see why, look at how Jesus answered it:
“Some Pharisees came to him to test him [Jesus]. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”” (Matthew 19:3-6 with my added emphasis and note)
When Jesus was asked about divorce, His response began with the origin, design and formation of marriage. At the beginning of creation, marriage was designed by God as a union between a man and a woman. God forms the two together, mixing them to become one. Kind of like how epoxy is mixed together from two separate and different parts.
If you have epoxied two things together, is it okay with the guy who invented epoxy if you try to take them back apart? Wrong question. If you asked him, he would say, “You can’t take them apart because they are now one. You can break them apart, but I wouldn’t recommend it, because you will damage them.”
The question with divorce is not, “Will God get mad?” but, “Are we going to hurt ourselves (and a whole bunch of others)?” God gave us marriage to bless us. He has told us that this “oneness” is a precious thing that He has done. He warned us not to break it. Why? Not because He will get mad, but because we will hurt ourselves. Divorce is contrary to God’s design.
In this day and age, the chances are pretty good that you are already divorced. Can the damage be healed? Of course, but only partially, as you already know. Is God mad at you? To the contrary, He loves you and aches for you. He longs for us to live with joy, according to His design.
Dear Tom, please understand that divorce is not the problem. It’s a solution to a problem.
I do understand, Donna, and so did Jesus. It’s tough to write about this topic, since I am painfully aware of how many people have experienced so much hurt. Jesus didn’t come to condemn us, but to help us know and live by The Father’s design. Thanks for the response.
So, do you think a person who is abused, a person who was married off by parents or others (like 12-year-olds in several countries), a heterosexual person who, unknowingly, marries a homosexual, or a woman who is forced to marry her rapist to preserve “family honor” — all these people should remain in these wrong marriages? “The Father’s design” meant these travesties to last forever?
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